Messy, Honest, and Too Much Like Me

As soon as I watched the first episode of Too Much, I didn’t just like the show—I felt seen. I already knew I was going to enjoy this new Netflix series, with one of my all-time favourite creators, Lena Dunham (the genius behind Girls), and Meg Stalter, the hilarious standout from Hacks. That pairing alone had me excited.

I expected it to stir up conversation, many of the best pieces of work do but what surprised me was how overwhelmingly negative the reviews have been. I haven’t come across much that reflects how I feel about it. So, in this week’s post, I just want to spread some love for what I consider to be truly great television. 

1. A Mirror in the Form of a Messy Heroine 

Jess is chaotic, hyper-aware, deeply emotional, and always a bit too much-exactly how I often feel. Her sarcasm is a shield, her impulsiveness a coping mechanism, and her vulnerability leaks out at the most inconvenient times. Jess says the things I think but don't always voice. She’s trying to grow, to figure herself out but she’s messy about it. And I love her for that. 

And one more thing, if you don’t “get” Meg Stalter’s acting, the whole point is to be over-the-top. That’s her thing. It’s bold, it’s strange, it’s hilarious and it’s not meant to fit neatly into a box.

2. The Heart Wants, the Mind Undoes

The romance in Too Much isn’t the glossy, Instagram-filter kind. It’s raw, confusing, and tangled with the kind of self-sabotage that comes from unhealed wounds. Watching Jess fumble through intimacy, pushing people away while desperately wanting to be loved is painfully real. That tension between desire and fear, connection and independence, is something I (and probably many others) deeply relate to. The show doesn’t romanticise the breakdowns or the missteps. Whether it's old trauma, bad timing, or simply fear of not being enough, Too Much doesn’t shy away from showing how we can be both the hero and the villain in our own stories. 

3. A Need That Won’t Let Go

Obsession pulses through Too Much, subtle at first, then overwhelming. Jess fixates: on people, on moments, on past mistakes she can’t undo. Whether it’s yearning, career ambition, or the relentless need to be understood, obsession drives her choices, often at her own expense. It shows how exhausting it is to be caught in a mental spin cycle, unable to let go. Even her connection with love interests isn’t just affection; it’s a desperate clinging, a hunger to fill the spaces inside her that feel too empty or too loud. It’s this honest portrayal of obsession, not as passion, but as emotional entrapment- that makes the show so raw and real.

At the end of the day, Too Much won’t be for everyone and that’s exactly why it’s special. It takes risks, leans into discomfort, and dares to be different. 

Love, Aria 

XO